Highschool Can Kiss My ****

cshank4cshank4 Join Date: 2003-02-11 Member: 13425Members
<div class="IPBDescription">... I just need to vent sorry.</div> Okay 2nd day of high school. Im **** off the bat. I find out I have 2 study halls a week (and at other ends of the week WTHS) Oh yes, then A girl who knows I like her and shes like my best friend doesn't even show any interest in me at all... (hell she wont even talk to me any more unless tis over the phone.) Then I found out that I have a hard as hell time making conversation and looking at a prsons face when I talk to em (Usually look over there shoulder and stuff) No girls at all in my school like me, in fact most hate my guts and they don't even know me.


I keep getting bulied by the Jocks for no reason at all (Infact today I snapped and almost broke ones arm....Im in Karate so Im not a complete wimp) And I don't even know why.

I have to push myself to sit by anyone at lunch or in Drama, hell that alone is like hell for me since we gotta be a team, or in any class for that matter. Its like they don't wan't me next to em... I dunno...


Life just **** sucks ****
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  • NumbersNotFoundNumbersNotFound Join Date: 2002-11-07 Member: 7556Members
    I have the same problem... I can't look into anybody else's eyes for fear of them being uncomfortable, and i have a hard time talking to girls because i misintrupret their expressions to be that "get the hell away" face <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif'><!--endemo-->

    Anyway, if this is your first year of HS it will get better. A lot of my class really matured when they got to 10 th grade and now in 12th nobody bothers me at all.
  • RenegadeRenegade Old school Join Date: 2002-03-29 Member: 361Members
    <!--QuoteBegin--404NotFound+Sep 3 2003, 01:29 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (404NotFound @ Sep 3 2003, 01:29 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> I have the same problem... I can't look into anybody else's eyes for fear of them being uncomfortable, and i have a hard time talking to girls because i misintrupret their expressions to be that "get the hell away" face <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif'><!--endemo--> <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    You're shyness should pass as you enter into college mode (mine did), emphasis on should. If it doesn't, you're going to miss out on alot of the fun there is to be had.
  • MelatoninMelatonin Babbler Join Date: 2003-03-15 Member: 14551Members, Constellation
    when i was in highschool kids were always fighting and stuff, till about the third year then all of a sudden everyone just chilled out. i found it really strange at the time, just total change one summer. Im in the UK so we were proabbly not talking about the same age ranges tho...
  • DiscoZombieDiscoZombie Join Date: 2003-08-05 Member: 18951Members
    I agree with Ren and Mel -- shyness passes, and people do chill out as they mature...

    as for the girl not paying attention to you -- you may be reading it all wrong... just like you may be shy, so may she be. she may really like you and be avoiding you because she's embarrassed about it. otherwise, why would she even bother talking to you on the phone? if she hated you, she wouldn't give you the time of day at all.

    I could be wrong; I just know that if you always expect people hate you, that'll stick in your head, and you'll never know if they really like you... in retrospect, I know I missed out on several relationships I could have had in high school (and even at the end of middle school) just because I was too shy and didn't realize anyone could like me more than as a friend. bad self esteem sux <!--emo&???--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/confused.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='confused.gif'><!--endemo-->
  • OttoDestructOttoDestruct Join Date: 2002-11-08 Member: 7790Members
    1) Girls arent everything

    2) Beat the crap out of anyone pushing you around if you can.
  • roachemsroachems Join Date: 2003-04-02 Member: 15148Members
    thank god i'm out of high school
  • MalevolentMalevolent Join Date: 2003-08-03 Member: 18842Members
    In my high school everyone gets along pretty well (there's only 700 kids though), but there are a few kids who just don't fit in because how they act (some choose to be reclusive). Also, every now and then there's a fight (like last week). Most kids in my school hang out in groups and just that group. Some have more than one group. But that's basically what my whole school is like.
  • ZigZig ...I am Captain Planet&#33; Join Date: 2002-10-23 Member: 1576Members
    edited September 2003
    the 2nd week so far of junior year..

    w7f are you talking about. hs is f*ckin awesome.

    well yeah, freshman year is complete and utter crappilage.



    just wait until later. things'll smooth over, and you'll finally realize that, about most things, you really dont <i>give</i> a sh*t like you used to.


    it's a great gawddamn feeling.


    edit: i honestly couldn't approach girls or people during freshman year. now... well, then was then. and now is now.

    so if you try now and it doesn't work, you can always wait.
  • SirusSirus Join Date: 2002-11-13 Member: 8466Members, NS1 Playtester, Constellation
    First of all, get past the whole if I talk to a girl that means I must like her phase. Girls are just girls, go ahead and talk to them. I've seen alot of guys sit next to some nice ladies in class and they just freeze up or whatever and they barely ever speak to them.

    Also, sounds like you're coming in with a rebel mindset, "I won't let people show me up, talk bad of me, give me a dirty look, or just overall being real 'smart' about everything" Lose the attitude if that's the way you behave. Act mature, be kind, be respectful (This is key) and keep a calm attitude. If you can do that, it will make your Highschool life much easier.
  • ZigZig ...I am Captain Planet&#33; Join Date: 2002-10-23 Member: 1576Members
    edited September 2003
    hm.. i agree with sirus.

    people <span style='color:orange'>****</span> with each other all the time, you don't have to explain how you might have hurt their arm or something.
    this one guy's been a real <span style='color:orange'>***</span> to one of my friends, we're probably gonna mess with him (<i>mess</i> with him) in the next few days.
    i don't need to talk about it, tho. cuz it's not important.

    it's easy to read in your attitude that you feel like you've got something to prove. just drop it, buddy. relax. and like i said, just stop giving a <span style='color:orange'>***</span> what happens. things just clear up.

    <span style='color:orange'>Hmm. I saw a swear evasion in a post of yours further down the thread, decided to look at how you've written previous posts here, and lookie! Three in one, and other cases in other posts. Don't keep this up.</span>
  • MalevolentMalevolent Join Date: 2003-08-03 Member: 18842Members
    <!--QuoteBegin--Zig+Sep 3 2003, 06:25 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Zig @ Sep 3 2003, 06:25 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> the 2nd week so far of junior year..

    w7f are you talking about. hs is f*ckin awesome.

    well yeah, freshman year is complete and utter crappilage.



    just wait until later. things'll smooth over, and you'll finally realize that, about most things, you really dont <i>give</i> a sh*t like you used to. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    Yeah, I'm in my junior year also. It's much better than freshman because you know most of the seniors since they've been ahead of you a grade all the time, and you're older than everyone else. You know the school, how stuff works, you know a lot of teachers and you've made plently of new friends by your junior year. It makes everything a lot easier. There's also a big improvement when you get to be a sophmore.
  • SirusSirus Join Date: 2002-11-13 Member: 8466Members, NS1 Playtester, Constellation
    I think that's a good point Zig.

    "You've got nothing to prove"

    People who are constantly trying to prove something come off as having a very unattractive personality.
  • DubersDubers Pet Shop Boy Edinburgh, UK Join Date: 2002-07-25 Member: 998Members
    Guys you don't have to have ton's of confidence to get on with people you jus have to chill out and relax. Don't be so tense all the time and jus have an "I don't give a crap what anyone thinks" attitued and evetually it works. Tooks me ages to get over how bad a time I had in high school and I realised soon enough that if I had jus chilled out I wouldn't have been so freeaked out and self concious when it came to socialising.

    Seroiusly if you jus take it easy, be casual, keep your chin up and don't give a flying fart what the guys who pick on you think you will soon start feeling better. Once you feel comfortable being around people, people will want to get to know you which is where your confidence building starts.

    There is ALWAYS gonna be people out there to make your life difficult so the sooner you lear to deal with buttholes like that the easier life becomes. Gotta remember you don't have to strive to be cool or noticed to be liked. All the nicest most genuine people I know aren't loud or have stacks and stacks of confidence, they are jus chilled out accomodating people which makes them really easy to get on with.

    Remember the more paranoid you get about peoples opinions of you the more and more your nervousness shows. Whenever you talk to people jus take steady breaths and and try not to fidget alot. Stand or sit with a more open stance and dont look away cos you come off as being rude but don't stare too much lol or you will seem like a nutter.

    Anyways here is me rambling on like an agony aunt but I'm jus speaking from experince really.

    Hope this helps.

    ---DuBERS---
  • ZigZig ...I am Captain Planet&#33; Join Date: 2002-10-23 Member: 1576Members
    <!--QuoteBegin--DuBERS+Sep 3 2003, 10:51 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (DuBERS @ Sep 3 2003, 10:51 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Guys you don't have to have ton's of confidence to get on with people you jus have to chill out and relax. Don't be so tense all the time and jus have an "I don't give a crap what anyone thinks" attitued and evetually it works. Tooks me ages to get over how bad a time I had in high school and I realised soon enough that if I had jus chilled out I wouldn't have been so freeaked out and self concious when it came to socialising.

    Seroiusly if you jus take it easy, be casual, keep your chin up and don't give a flying fart what the guys who pick on you think you will soon start feeling better. Once you feel comfortable being around people, people will want to get to know you which is where your confidence building starts.

    There is ALWAYS gonna be people out there to make your life difficult so the sooner you lear to deal with buttholes like that the easier life becomes. Gotta remember you don't have to strive to be cool or noticed to be liked. All the nicest most genuine people I know aren't loud or have stacks and stacks of confidence, they are jus chilled out accomodating people which makes them really easy to get on with.

    Remember the more paranoid you get about peoples opinions of you the more and more your nervousness shows. Whenever you talk to people jus take steady breaths and and try not to fidget alot. Stand or sit with a more open stance and dont look away cos you come off as being rude but don't stare too much lol or you will seem like a nutter.

    Anyways here is me rambling on like an agony aunt but I'm jus speaking from experince really.

    Hope this helps.

    ---DuBERS--- <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    badabing, dubes.

    you just put it across a tad less crudely than i did.

    but like i said, nothing's very hard after you do what dubes says.

    basically, stop caring what happens, and just live in, and for, the moment.
  • cshank4cshank4 Join Date: 2003-02-11 Member: 13425Members
    see I dont have anything to prove though and I know it, The people pick on me just cause I hate sports? I mean What the hell? I dunno, like a year ago I was a loner my whole life till I met my best friend and now he seems to like hate me so bah. I might as well just go loner again
  • DubersDubers Pet Shop Boy Edinburgh, UK Join Date: 2002-07-25 Member: 998Members
    You just have to change your attitude mate. Think positive and and don't care what anyone else thinks.
  • cshank4cshank4 Join Date: 2003-02-11 Member: 13425Members
    <!--QuoteBegin--DuBERS+Sep 3 2003, 06:16 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (DuBERS @ Sep 3 2003, 06:16 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> You just have to change your attitude mate. Think positive and and don't care what anyone else thinks. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    but thats the thing I dont give thirteen damns what anyone thinks of me, honestly. I just don't understand how people can hate me if they don't even know me! Its stupid!
  • ZigZig ...I am Captain Planet&#33; Join Date: 2002-10-23 Member: 1576Members
    edited September 2003
    <!--QuoteBegin--cshank4+Sep 3 2003, 11:20 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (cshank4 @ Sep 3 2003, 11:20 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin--DuBERS+Sep 3 2003, 06:16 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (DuBERS @ Sep 3 2003, 06:16 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> You just have to change your attitude mate. Think positive and and don't care what anyone else thinks. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
    but thats the thing I dont give thirteen damns what anyone thinks of me, honestly. I just don't understand how people can hate me if they don't even know me! Its stupid! <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
    listen to yourself.

    you "don't understand", and "it's stupid".

    these statements show us that you give a great deal more than thirteen damns. i'd estimate roughly 20,000 damns. give or take a few hundred.

    seriously, though. why does it matter what they think? why are you assuming they hate you?

    this is <i>so</i> common that i already know what your answer will be: you don't know what my school is like! THEY DO HATE ME!

    and now that i've said that you'll claim it wasn't going to be your answer.

    i can keep dictating everything that'll happen in this thread, if you want me to.

    or you can follow our lead, and just stop giving a <span style='color:orange'>****</span>.
  • MoquiaoMoquiao Join Date: 2003-05-09 Member: 16168Members
    <!--QuoteBegin--OttoDestruct+Sep 3 2003, 11:09 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (OttoDestruct @ Sep 3 2003, 11:09 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> 1) Girls arent everything

    2) Beat the crap out of anyone pushing you around if you can. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    this dude speaketh the truth... lots of people say violence doesnt pay etc... when i was 11 i had 3 fingers broken in a locker door cos apparently ; was weaker.. since the age of 12 + i have just been letting go on bully type people.. i never got picked on much after a few lessons...


    and dude... dont worry about the females.. trust me.. when you got em.. youll get so annoyed with them cos they are so stroppy and thigns..
  • ZigZig ...I am Captain Planet&#33; Join Date: 2002-10-23 Member: 1576Members
    edited September 2003
    lol, another guy with something to prove, and ways to prove it.

    don't listen to it.

    you say you don't care but you obviously care <i>SOMEWHAT</i> what people think of you.

    so if you go around beating up people (or trying to, post a pic of you in only shorts, so we can assess your fightz0rz. high school upperclassmen tend to win just 'cause they're huge. they're not just big. they play football. crush)

    your image goes from <i> i don't know him </i>

    to <i> he's that freaky kid that doesn't care what people say and just likes to hurt things, let's not talk to him and hate him collectively </i>

    just go with what i and dubers said.
  • Josiah_BartletJosiah_Bartlet Join Date: 2002-07-04 Member: 880Members, Constellation
    <!--QuoteBegin--cshank4+Sep 3 2003, 11:20 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (cshank4 @ Sep 3 2003, 11:20 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> <!--QuoteBegin--DuBERS+Sep 3 2003, 06:16 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (DuBERS @ Sep 3 2003, 06:16 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> You just have to change your attitude mate. Think positive and and don't care what anyone else thinks. <!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd-->
    but thats the thing I dont give thirteen damns what anyone thinks of me, honestly. I just don't understand how people can hate me if they don't even know me! Its stupid! <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    I think the thing is here is that they don't hate you, they just don't know you - it would, however, appear that you don't want to know them, so don't expect that to change anytime soon.

    If you do want that to change, then people have given you good advice here mate. Why not try and get to know people? You appear to have nothing to lose.

    And as for bullying, the causes of bullying are on pretty much all "support" websites.
  • ForkehForkeh Join Date: 2003-08-11 Member: 19431Members, Constellation
    <!--QuoteBegin--cshank4+Sep 3 2003, 03:04 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (cshank4 @ Sep 3 2003, 03:04 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> No girls at all in my school like me, in fact most hate my guts and they don't even know me. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    These are the words of the one who has given up hope...or a loser...you decide which one...dude all you have to do is be yourself and if they like that then go with it...unless your either a complete a-hole or you are very unapealing (as in personality and things you like to do not the way you look.) you wont have trouble...do you expect every girl to like you anyways? I mean school has only be in session what? a few weeks now? things take time...if you want to meat your soul mate (or just a make out buddy) then have patients...your acting as if they are obligated to like you otherwise you wont feel good enough...thats disrespecting them and with that attitude you dont deserve to have a girl...

    oh yea and in my years of going after the ladies I learned that it's all about self image....about 45% of it is self image....If you have a good self image and a good attitude they will be crawling all over you...with some work of course...there is a lot more to it then what i'm saying but come on dude, you sounds like a weirdo...not trying to flame you but its just unreasonable
  • JavertJavert Join Date: 2003-04-30 Member: 15954Members
    Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee.
  • CommunistWithAGunCommunistWithAGun Local Propaganda Guy Join Date: 2003-04-30 Member: 15953Members
    1.)Look people straight in the eye and don't stop. This will overcome this.
    2.)You don't want a girlfriend in highschool, unless you like a meaningless dry-hump fest that leads usually to nowhere.
    3.)The jocks are silly. Use big words on them, they usually become confused and passive. I used to do this all the time, then again I was, am a big person. (I'm 6'3, and strong) so bullies were never an issue. Let them know you aren't messing around.
  • kidakida Join Date: 2003-02-20 Member: 13778Members
    If someone messes with yea, it is best not to retaliate, otherwise you will get in deeper shiat.

    Remember that old teaching of Jesus, If he slaps you one cheek, let him slap you on the other...

    Just lay it off, stop worrying, and live your life focusing on your studies and whatnot...
    Just chill and be friendly.

    If all this doesn't work, just move to different schools.

    Buy a boxing bag and hang it up in the basement then knock some punches into it.
    Oh and just have the, "I am who Iam, don't give a ****, living my life with the best I got and what I can do" mentality.

    And remember, everyone has their problems, not one human is perfect. I have problems too, family problems, school problems, physical problems, whatever, problems.

    -peace
  • MrMojoMrMojo Join Date: 2002-11-25 Member: 9882Members, Constellation
    How can they hate you if they don't know you?


    My school is going fine so far, except the horribly positionining of my locker in proportion to any and all of my classes, and the fact that most of my friends are in a different lunch period.
  • XzilenXzilen Join Date: 2002-12-30 Member: 11642Members, Constellation
    I know the isolation feeling man. It sucks. I hated doing group projects because I was always afraid of hearing someone go

    "Oh hell, I don't want to be teamed with him" or some ****.... Its hard man, but keep at it. Best of luck, and I hope things improve.
  • ForkehForkeh Join Date: 2003-08-11 Member: 19431Members, Constellation
    <!--QuoteBegin--Xzilen+Sep 3 2003, 07:44 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (Xzilen @ Sep 3 2003, 07:44 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> I know the isolation feeling man. It sucks. I hated doing group projects because I was always afraid of hearing someone go

    "Oh hell, I don't want to be teamed with him" or some ****.... Its hard man, but keep at it. Best of luck, and I hope things improve. <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    Just know that What ever happens in High school (or maybe jr. high in some peoples cases, you know...the 12 year olds that sound 2) wont matter when you get out of it...you can move away and never see those people again in your life if you wish...
  • GnatsumGnatsum Join Date: 2002-12-11 Member: 10566Members
    High school for me was not how i imagined it to be. <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif'><!--endemo-->

    My timetable is like

    Intro to marketting with a bunch of people im kinda mutual with and some jackholes.
    SPARE!
    lunch
    English with people i am also sorta mutual with
    and another spare =|

    i need to get math and drama arghhh
    stupid school not doing they're work

    (oh yes and if yuo don't really understand whats going on im in grade 11 now and apparently for some reason grade 11's aren't supposed to have spares)

    so anyways school is lame right now. I'll be behind in math as usual and fail it and i don't get to have classes with any people that i really know and ARE MY FRIENDS.
  • MulletMullet Join Date: 2003-04-28 Member: 15910Members, Constellation
    <!--QuoteBegin--cshank4+Sep 3 2003, 02:04 PM--></span><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td><b>QUOTE</b> (cshank4 @ Sep 3 2003, 02:04 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> Okay 2nd day of high school. Im **** off the bat. I find out I have 2 study halls a week (and at other ends of the week WTHS) Oh yes, then A girl who knows I like her and shes like my best friend doesn't even show any interest in me at all... (hell she wont even talk to me any more unless tis over the phone.) Then I found out that I have a hard as hell time making conversation and looking at a prsons face when I talk to em (Usually look over there shoulder and stuff) No girls at all in my school like me, in fact most hate my guts and they don't even know me.


    I keep getting bulied by the Jocks for no reason at all (Infact today I snapped and almost broke ones arm....Im in Karate so Im not a complete wimp) And I don't even know why.

    I have to push myself to sit by anyone at lunch or in Drama, hell that alone is like hell for me since we gotta be a team, or in any class for that matter. Its like they don't wan't me next to em... I dunno...


    Life just **** sucks **** <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><span class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
    At my school all of the jocks (including me - not that I'm proud of being a jock) are extremely nice.....I don't get it when people say how jocks are so arrogant and stuff.... Maybe my friends and I are just <b>nice</b> jocks <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif'><!--endemo-->

    FOOTBALL IS TEH PWNZ()R J()()!!!

    Also, if so many people dis-like you, maybe you shouldn't snap and attack someone immediately....Well unless they are causing physical harm to you I suppose....

    As I've learned through school, NEVER throw the first punch....Because after the other guy swings at you or wahtever, your free to go kick **** and not get in trouble <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif'><!--endemo-->

    BTW: Don't stress about girls....They are girls. 'Nuff said.
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