Girl Probs... Well.. Not Really.
<div class="IPBDescription">I dunno... what to do.</div> Okay Highschool just started for me, big angst trip from my first post. Yadda Yadda. Well things have been going real smoothe Im getting a long with everyone, my hairs growing out, same ole same ole... till I truly met Kristin... Now me and Kris have been friends since the 7th grade but we were never able to keep in good contact because of our schdules and our families living almost half a state away (don't ask our schools wierd). Well we finally have some study halls together and weve basically spent the last week getting to know eachother (and over AIM)...
Now, I've always been physically attracted to her, and her me (cant see why, I think Im UGLY) but after just talking to her and us becoming better friends I really and truly think Im in love.... No joke, shes the most Intelligent, Funny, Outgoing, and Loving girl I've ever met, no joke.
Now I met her old boyfriends orta and well... we got in a .... fight... to say the least (he was a creep said a bunch of sexually derogitory terms to insult Kris and he just got outta prison... nice fella) Well thats not all... now the guys familiy ants to put the **** in our school, and Kristin says she can't handel it... So I dunno what to do so
could I get some advice on
a: Where to take this ... relationship (if you could call it that) like were should I ask her out to
and
b: what should I do to help her thru this school year?
Now, I've always been physically attracted to her, and her me (cant see why, I think Im UGLY) but after just talking to her and us becoming better friends I really and truly think Im in love.... No joke, shes the most Intelligent, Funny, Outgoing, and Loving girl I've ever met, no joke.
Now I met her old boyfriends orta and well... we got in a .... fight... to say the least (he was a creep said a bunch of sexually derogitory terms to insult Kris and he just got outta prison... nice fella) Well thats not all... now the guys familiy ants to put the **** in our school, and Kristin says she can't handel it... So I dunno what to do so
could I get some advice on
a: Where to take this ... relationship (if you could call it that) like were should I ask her out to
and
b: what should I do to help her thru this school year?
Comments
And about him going to highschool wouldnt worry a whole lot im sure he'll find someone else. Chances are you might not see him a lot. If your smart you'll be in the better classes while he'll be in the much lower ones.
And you'll eventually find a good time to tell her about going out and such. Just a matter of time.
Honestly annoynums people on a gaming forum aren't the best source for this sort of thing. Talk to a parent, friend, or sibling, if you find you have no one around you that you can talk to then that is a bad thing.
If you want my advice though, act on your feelings. Don't drag it out if you think you like her, please don't use love so liberaly, ask her out if she says no then there will be less time for you to get your feelings tangled up and a lot less pain later.
b) just be there to support her, to listen to her, to offer her advice, and comfort her <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif'><!--endemo-->
I guess girls have secret forums of their own where they discuss boy problems?
The least malicious and most effective way to make sure he dosent transfer to her school would simply be to take a brick and gently put it on the hood of his car, attatch a nice note saying "Go to <name of school> and this brick will be smashed through your windshield". Simple and effective.
As for the girl, pfft if I have a clue as what to tell you. You tell her your in love with her and find out she just wanted to be friends and the friendship is pretty much blown to hell. Its a sticky situation.
Don't take my advice, but I myself would simply wait it out, if she does like you it shouldn't be too hard to see some indication of that. The best thing you can do is just be the best friend you can.
As for helping her out at school, I don't know what to tell you since Im homeschooled <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo--> Don't try to be too macho, but watch for suttle opportunities to show you care.
Once again I ask myself why I comment on things I know nothing about... anyhow, give us some updates sometime.
anyway, as for her, why won't she be able to deal with him? because she still cares something about him or because she's scared he's gonna stalk her or attack her or something? If she's just scared he's gonna try to get back together with her, then, well, she can just tell him to sod off. if he's got a criminal record, she could always get a restraining order if he's a psycho stalker. :> if she has no problem avoiding him/ignoring him, then it shouldn't be that hard to slowly get closer to her, right?
IGNORE TENSIX (yah crack baby, stuff like that has disclaimers for a reason /smeck)
now, if you REALY wana take care of the twit try <a href='http://www.ninjaburger.com/' target='_blank'>this site</a>, I know they are good from exeriance.......
yah, serious now
some basic stuff
For dealing with her:
be smart, just tell her your fealings, if things don;t work you CAN still stay friends (trust me it can work)
for the twit:
Ignore him, if he insists on being a nuisance, tell him to bugger off
don't attack him, if he pushes far enugh, ie he ATTACKS feel free to defend
At that point simply contact either:
1) the school and tell them of the problem (any 1/2 way decent school will handel it)
2) contact the athorities (restraining orders are fun, we had one leveled against some one b/c of threats and what not to a friend <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif'><!--endemo-->)
No one at your age should be involved in a "relationship" that goes beyond trading Pokemon cards and gossiping about who has the most cooties and whatever typical kiddie stereotype you can think of. Come to think of it, no one in high school should even go that far, because teens are flat out not mature enough in general to handle it. (i.e. teen pregnancy, teen suicides over so called "soul mates", shootings (and the like), underage drinking and smoking, and posts like this that you have so eloquently typed out)
Bottom Line - Save yourself the pain and "emotional" anguish, and read a good book, however, please avoid the Scarlet Letter.
Besides, if she has any reason to fear this dude, any good friend would make sure he didn't mess with her.
PS. If you need a website for assistance on dating you have more problems then lack-of-getting-a-girlfriend.
still kids?
I am 20, and suporting my self right now.......
violence is NOT a good solution b/c all it requires is one DECENT lawyar to put you down. Don't fight the law you will loose.
Instead simply use it in your favor.
If any of you have ever either talked with cops or taken a selfdefense class you would understand, never, never initaite anything....
Just be ready when it happens.
I have personaly never been in a fight (I have avoided them all or simply controlled my temper).
again, just trying to drill this through your head, you can esaly turn a threat into cause for action from authorahtaes! (ie respect mah!)
so ya,h just trying to instill some sane thoughts in here, don't go for attacks and threats, they realy are not gona make anything better.
What I saw so far. Boy likes girl, girl likes boy. I don't really see a problem here. You're modest, that's good, but just because you think you're ugly doesn't mean you should tell everyone else how to view you. I'm no James Dean, but that doesn't mean I can't do anything cool. You may not be the hottest on the block, but that doesn't mean you can't go for the gold, it just means you have to work harder for it.
As for the other problem. Your school sounds strange, just like the situation (<b>just got out of prison</b>). There isn't much you can do, but try to be there to support her. If he starts doing things that are/could be damaging, either psychologically or physically, intervene, either by talking to her and encouraging her to solve the problem (police, teachers, parents, whatever). I don't feel you should intervene and take action yourself, but I prefer accepting the fate of others as the fate that they choose for each other. I can tell them how to fix it, but actually fixing it shouldn't be up to you, especially if they can solve the problem.