Women
<div class="IPBDescription">From a guy's point of view...</div> I don't understand them. Don't get me wrong. They are mothers of our children, and they have proven at least to me they are more than equal to men. However, when it comes to relationships, I really don't understand women.
For example, if your girlfriend asks you if she's fat, what do you say to that? A guy is straightforward. A guy will tell you exactly what he's thinking.. no more.. no less. Women are complete opposites. They play mind games with you.
If she asked this question, how would you answer? She doesn't want the truth. If she tries something on and wants an honest opinion, she'll ask her girlfriends. If she asks you, she wants only one answer. So if she wants to hear that she's beautiful, why does she ask?
Anyone care to explain here that is of the female species?
For example, if your girlfriend asks you if she's fat, what do you say to that? A guy is straightforward. A guy will tell you exactly what he's thinking.. no more.. no less. Women are complete opposites. They play mind games with you.
If she asked this question, how would you answer? She doesn't want the truth. If she tries something on and wants an honest opinion, she'll ask her girlfriends. If she asks you, she wants only one answer. So if she wants to hear that she's beautiful, why does she ask?
Anyone care to explain here that is of the female species?
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She apreciates my honesty TBH.
They say they want honesty, when they want honeyed words. If you're honest, you're cruel. If you're dishonest and they realise, you're even crueller for not being honest, and from here on treated as a dishonest person.
It's not worth the effort getting your head around it.
As far as I understand, that's completely normal.
Depends on the person hawk... honesty isn't bad if you word it right ^~
Truth is, lil questions like that are kind of 'comfort' almost... they want to know how you feel about them, view them, whatever. If they ask if it makes their bum looks big the answer you give is almost as much about HOW you say your answer as to what the actual answer is =3
It's like romantic poetry type stuff; sure it's silly but it makes you feel pretty and special (unless they describe your eye like frying pans or something not so great sounding like that lol)
Indeed.
But as with most parody, worryingly accurate. <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo-->
As long as it's given in a light-hearted way, where it's clear there's no malicious intent, then your only problem is that minority of people who will <i>try</i> to take offense at <b><i>everything.</i></b>.
as for the fishing for compliments thing -- well, if you don't want to make her feel good, you're probaly with the wrong woman... I willingly told my ex-girlfriend how beautiful she was constantly, throughout every day, without being prompted... didn't stop her from cheating on me out of insecurity though...
I'm trying to keep faith that there's a good woman out there who can make me happy without cheating on me... it's so sad, it seems that the better a man you are, the nicer you are, the more likely they are to take advantage of you and cheat and crap <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo--> I should just start being a jerk and my women problems will probably be solved <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo-->
Yeah... women...
Women are ace! She's asking whether she looks fat? <i>Of course not!</i> Basic stuff, gents, why bother making life difficult?
Women are ace! She's asking whether she looks fat? <i>Of course not!</i> Basic stuff, gents, why bother making life difficult? <!--QuoteEnd--> </td></tr></table><div class='postcolor'> <!--QuoteEEnd-->
or say how she looks fat but you are sure that there are fatter women out there, they love that too
Also, much of the confusion brought on from women is deep rooted social conditioning, learned from observation and treatment. Now not only is the problem perpetuated by media and society as a whole, but as men, we are greatly at fault for this too. The way women are treated, albeit not nessecarially(sp?) by you in particular, plays heavily in this. Again, this is due to the conditioning as men. Now not only women have these problems either, theirs are just more noticed seeing as how it has become "ok" for women to vocalize themselves in this fasion while men should show a hardened, simplistic self.
Basically, both sexes are ENTIRELY insane. Both men and women, cheat, lie, deceive and perpetuate the problem as a whole, but generally do it so unknowingly and without real malicious intet. With the divorce rates as common as they are, is it any suprise that poor relationship habbits are as prevelant as they are?
The way I look at it is this......... I just need to meet someone whos insanity I can cope with, and works parrallel to mine <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo--> then I get the rest of our lives to try and figure her out, as a person, not the entire female gender. And really, once you find that particular person, what do the rest of them matter anyway?
Me: i mean, what do you do if a girl asks you "do i look fat?"
Me: if shes skinny, thats no problem
Me: just say "no"
Me: but if shes not
Me: if you say "no, your not fat"
Me: then she'll get mad at you for not being honest
Me: but if you say "yeah, your fat"
Me: she'll get upset that you're mean to her
Girl: yeah
Me: how do you win that?
Girl: lol
Girl: you say she's beautiful
Me: ahhhh
Girl: and you dont care what size she is
Girl: it's justa number to help you buy pants
Me: but then she'll say your trying to change the subject
Girl: no
Girl: she wont
Me: hmm seems, illogical. are you sure she wont say that?
Girl: yes
Me: meh, okay. anyway, i should post this and enlighten my fellow brethern
Girl: yes you should
Girl: if she says 'do i look fat?'
Girl: you should say, 'no, you look beautiful'
Girl: regardless of how she looks
Me: got it
Me: i think
Girl: good
THERE WE HAVE IT! The answer at long last has been revealed <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo-->
A friend of mine looks really beautiful, and she's never tried to enhance it using make-up. She's not concerned with what other people think of her appearance, and she's pleased with herself. The only time i see her wearing makeup is when she's dressing up in a particular style, and that's done for fun. (And this type of girl isn't uncommon at all, you just have to talk to women.)
Those images were <b>funny</b>. <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /><!--endemo--> I fail to see how anyone would claim that they're sexist when they were intended to be funny, not demeaning to women. (I find it funny how much people regard demeaning women as "sexist", but don't find demeaning men or elevating women above men as "sexist".)
^^ I have spent many nights trying to interpret the female psyche, and they still mystify me. If they ask you something, tell them what you think, becuase they asked for your oppinion.
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weggy is right
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Hehe, that's what I thought too. And just for clarification, they were forwarded to me by a FEMALE coworker because I was curious why she and our other FEMALE coworkers were standing around her desk and laughing.
Looks like it might be time to put down the flaming bras and grow a sense of humor. GG Feminazis.
I mean I know the answer to make them happy is "yes, you're beautiful," but since when have women gone insane and started wanting honest opinions AND carefully placed lies that look honest?
find someone who appreciates honesty.
Can you say, denial? lol
Just give it a year. You'll be whipped and when she asks you if she looks fat in a dress, after having argued with her on multiple occasions just for being honest, you'll find yourself answer "you're the most beautiful thing I've ever seen."
it's simple, really -- she asks how she looks, yeah, be honest. if you think she looks beautiful, tell her. if you don't, you probably shouldn't be with her.
this is why love stinks and is so bitterly ironic. I thought my ex was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen, and I told her constantly. She cheated on me, and here I am single. and yet, there's tons of guys who RESENT having to tell their girlfriends they're beautiful, they think of it as a chore, not a privilege, not second nature... and these people have better love lives than me...
life is so cruel.
My x...now my gf again..not sure..I think the make out session yesterday and the almost sex is a sign where back I suppose, but she confuses me at times and she also says that I confuse her so ya <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html//emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif' /><!--endemo-->
I think men and women are at equal balance.
*woo I started the 3rd page heh*