Falling in love only happens when you're not in control of your life
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Remain Calm Join Date: 2002-11-02 Member: 5216Forum Moderators, Constellation
Remain Calm Join Date: 2002-11-02 Member: 5216Forum Moderators, Constellation
<div class="IPBDescription">Comic book author theorizes</div>I'm not sure how well-known <a href="http://www.rockymagasin.se/" target="_blank">Rocky</a> (no, not Balboa) is elsewhere (note language options in upper right of site), but he came up with something interesting. Trying to translate the comic in question...
"I know I 'come up' with a lot of weirdo ideas, but this one actually works! You only fall in love when you're feeling unsure of yourself, who you are or where your life is going!
Look at teens! They don't have a clue, and fall in love every other day! 20+, 'Oh my oh dear, study or work?', falls head over heels with the first face they see! 30+ 'Oh my oh dear, did I choose the right career?', finds lifelong companion, has kids, love flows!
40+, things are great! Car, boat, kids, wife and dog all feeling good, work is coming along nicely, everything's fine! But what's this? Where did the passion go? Divorce, custody battle, bankruptcy and chaos, but oh wait! Suddenly we both totally fall for the next idiot to cross our sight! What a miracle!"
...Discuss.
"I know I 'come up' with a lot of weirdo ideas, but this one actually works! You only fall in love when you're feeling unsure of yourself, who you are or where your life is going!
Look at teens! They don't have a clue, and fall in love every other day! 20+, 'Oh my oh dear, study or work?', falls head over heels with the first face they see! 30+ 'Oh my oh dear, did I choose the right career?', finds lifelong companion, has kids, love flows!
40+, things are great! Car, boat, kids, wife and dog all feeling good, work is coming along nicely, everything's fine! But what's this? Where did the passion go? Divorce, custody battle, bankruptcy and chaos, but oh wait! Suddenly we both totally fall for the next idiot to cross our sight! What a miracle!"
...Discuss.
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falling in love with your reflection doesn't count.
That doesn't even begin to make sense. Your reply only makes sense if he said "I am in love" or something.
It's just stupid and weak as it is now. Pull your act together, sonic. Jeez. JEEZ!
Some people are never in control of their lives and fall in love, so for everyone in this category they'll read the comic and it'll ring true. <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=";)" border="0" alt="wink-fix.gif" />
I'v never been near that tar pit. Did anyone see me at the tar pit - NO. Only old man Jerry, but he's a liar. I punched him in the ###### with my .45, he said he was sorry. He's a good man. Sometimes I feel sorry for him, he's coughing up a lot of blood fast when you tap him on the back of his head with something blunt. He tells me that he's hurting from his time in the army, fighting the war.
Sometimes I pretend to listen. He really likes that. He tells me about his time in the states and how he's glad that we are at good spirit. He pukes a lot after a good story, and I shake my head kindly and smile.
It's just stupid and weak as it is now. Pull your act together, sonic. Jeez. JEEZ!<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
Yeah, I am disappointed too. I expected more of you, Sonic.
Which you immediately follow with your very own theory, which has just as many problems as the original theory as far as I'm concerned.
And if I remember correctly, emperor penguins stay together for a year, but often form new couples in the next breeding cycle.
Also, the "alpha pair" leadership is hardly universal. In wolves, it primarily denotes parenthood, which includes leadership - but that's a one-way connection, it doesn't automatically apply in reverse. You might find <a href="http://www.npwrc.usgs.gov/resource/mammals/alstat/alpst.htm" target="_blank">this</a> of interest. And lions are an entirely different matter, with one (or two) males being part of a much larger group of females.
And if I remember correctly, emperor penguins stay together for a year, but often form new couples in the next breeding cycle.
Also, the "alpha pair" leadership is hardly universal. In wolves, it primarily denotes parenthood, which includes leadership - but that's a one-way connection, it doesn't automatically apply in reverse. You might find <a href="http://www.npwrc.usgs.gov/resource/mammals/alstat/alpst.htm" target="_blank">this</a> of interest. And lions are an entirely different matter, with one (or two) males being part of a much larger group of females.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
hmm oh well.. I still think falling in love does not mean you don't have control in your life, i was in perfect control of my life when i did..
Postulate: "Falling in love means you're not in control of my life."
Counter-argument: "I was in control of my life when I fell in love."
Result: Disproven.
Postulate: "Falling in love helps you control your life."
Supporting argument: "I was in control of my life when I fell in love, and still am."
Result: Not proven.
That breaks it down to the essentials, pretty much. I doubt I need to elaborate. Except perhaps "one sample makes a poor statistic." That should do the trick.
By the way, another anecdote: My parents argue often, though rarely about really serious matters (just unimportant stuff like religion and politics). And they've been married for 27 years now. They even tell me that ever since me and my brother moved out, they hardly do it at all except when one of us is at home. Apparently it's no fun without an audience.
Then I fell in love...
I would argue that the act of falling in love creates uncertainty, at least in the first infatuous stages where raging chemicals in the brain dominate all the primary decision making thought processes.
After the initial period of infatuation and things settle down a bit, you either have the mature kind of love that lasts a lifetime or a very close intimate friendship that lasts for a time and drifts apart (but does not exclude continued friendship afterwards) or a very close intimate friendship that blows apart due to incompatible personalities and unwillingness to compromise, change or at the very least find a way to vent the tension.
TLDR Version: Uncertainty is a symptom of initial infatuation.