Oh Boy, I Screwed Up...
Teioh
Canadia Join Date: 2002-11-20 Member: 9453Members, Constellation
Canadia Join Date: 2002-11-20 Member: 9453Members, Constellation
<div class="IPBDescription">Girl problems...</div> So I had to take summer school, Gym 10, I'm in my senior year so it's me a 17 year old surrounded by a bunch of sweaty hormone ridden 14 year olds who are just out of grade 9. Now there is a 5:1 ratio of girls to guys, but 14 year olds aren't quite my thing. Fortunatly, there are some senior girls in this class too, and I've been flirting with one quite a bit. Today she asked me to go to a party with her and guess what I say, no... Now for some background, I got a kind of ugly duckling story, I was never asked out before Grade 11, never, because I wasn't quite hot so I spent most of time around my friends and never really talked to women. Now this past year and a half, I apparantly got hot and I've been asked out a few times, each time was no because I don't want to get involved with these shallow fools (also due to the fact that I will say no to anyone that won't ask me out themselves). This girl is the opposite and I said no to her and I believe that I have given her the message that I don't like her when it's just that I don't have experiece in this field. I regret what I did and I would like your advice as to what to do.
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Advice point number two: If you can say this much in a public place with thousands of people trafficking through every day, you should be able to tell her or her friends what you think and feel about it. Doesn't have to be deep philosophy, just...talk. If you can't, well...talking (whether with a person you like or don't) is a backbone to darn well near anything you'll do in life -- your career, your education, your relationships, everything except being a hermit. And being an antisocial hermit sucks because you're afraid to call tech support when your broadband connection goes down.
[edit] addition: I re-read your post and...it's a party? Heck, unless you've got something planned, just go. If you don't want to go with her specifically, go in a group of friends (hers and yours).
girl "You up for a party this weekend?"
dead_Dan " Man, I can't, I got some things I gota take care of" =(
then he's open to
"Hey, that party still on? My plans just got shifted" =)
or if it's
girl "party this weekend, wanna come?"
dead_dan "no, not really comfortable at them" =(
then he could just say something like
"that party still on? I think I'll give it a shot." =)
but there are millions of senerios to a single solution and yatta yatta yatta
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Heyyyyy...now just what's THAT supposed to mean <!--emo&:D--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:p--><img src='http://www.unknownworlds.com/forums/html/emoticons/tounge.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tounge.gif'><!--endemo-->
If she still wants you out there, go for it, if not, she's not worth persuing anyway.
/me waits for nukeage :-P
Anyway...
Don't let pyschological problems get to you like that. Life is short and what happens now, frankly, doesn't really matter in the end. Have fun and just go with the flow.
As for the recovery...
First, admit to being a dork, but doing it in a jovial, self mocking tone. start up a convo like "Yeah... I was being a dork earlier about that party thing. I'm so cool, right? Still want me to come?" If you act like you're over what you did and acknowledge how lame it was, she most likely won't hold it against you. I advise you do this ASAP, since the longer you wait, the more she feel like poo.
On a personal note, the same thing happened to me. I hit 'it' late and looked 12 (literally) entering my freshman year. Fast forward senior year... January 03, I met some girl at a new years eve party. She kinda jump started me into self confidence and I've been pimpin' since.
Its it shallow to aim for a girl a month for a year? :-P
Speak for yourself. I had many girlfriends throughout high-school and college, although the relationships were a bit short lived...
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I don't know what you're talking about man, The NS community is compose of 100% hardcore pimpage. lady killers all. Just look at coil! They were biddin on that mofo.
This comin from the guy who just got "intimate" with "girl-friend" (We've known each other for 13 years and been very close, always, just not physical)...
Best advice - A senior girl in Gym ain't worth it.
But anyways, just smile, look her into the eyes, say something like: "I am sorry for acting like an idiot back there..."
Don't use: "oh, you should have.."
Dunno, but it was something I learned in Carreer and life management class.
As for the "I was never asked out" deal. That's life, if you're a guy who's introverted, the females who ask you out are going out on a limb for you, something you probably would NOT do on your own (don't lie). Not only is that flattering but saying no could do serious mental damage (sometimes they need it, sometimes...)
I just had to deal with a bomb of an advice question ten minutes ago so I'm going to leave this as is and hope it helps.
Give it a shot! You never know...
<i>You didn't say "Do you want to go to an <b>S-Club</b> party?" yesterday, did you?</i>
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No matter how many bad girlfriends you might have had, go to bed every night thanking God that you have never met a chick from the Southwest coast of Florida.
Dude! You spoke to a girl! What was it like? OMG, you're like a legend now.
I had a crush on a girl that rode my bus... and I never got the courage to speak to her and I regret it to this day... she just graduated.
Crap Im in south florida.
/me hopes they wont come over here.
I have my fair share of "girl problems".
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Did YOU ever meet a chick from the Southwest coast of Florida?
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maybe thats just the women you attract.
My advice: your a senior do what the **** you want nobody cares about what happened in highschool when get you older. So might as well hook up with this girl and see where it takes yah.
he makes a point
is she hot?
do you like her?
if so say yes and just go and have some fun, you will regret not having done so in the future