For The Love Of God Help Me
Okay, I've ordered some books from Barnes & Noble and Amazon.com regarding aspects of my life I'm not eager to talk about with my parents. They're being shipped to me within a day or so. Now, my parents won't open my mail, but they want me to open the packages in front of them. So, how exactly am I to artfully hide my packages? Keep in mind I won't be home when they arive, and my mom will be home all day.
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Honestly if you wont be home to accept them, your screwed..
or tell her you ordered the books for research or soemthing.
But I've already come up with a half-assed plan. When the books arrive, I'll just ask my parents, "Would you rather I learn about my interests by reading, or by going to find someone to teach me?"
In case you're wondering, the books I'm worried about are "Female Domination: The male desire for loving female authority" and "Consensual Sadomasochism: How to talk about it and how to do it safely".
They're pretty open minded people, but still, its not something I want to talk about with them.
Edit: Yeah, I'm bisexual. But, um, I don't find that guy attractive...
I can certainly understand you not wishing to discuss things with your parents; I have a fairly overbearing pair myself. >.<
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They are already shipped. They're near my town, and they'll be here probably tomorrow. I can't change the shipping address.
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What does being a Republican have to do with it? And, anyway, my parents are fairly liberal Democrats, but I doubt they want to hear from their 14 year old son that he's interested in BDSM.
And, anyway, I mentioned the books. Its "Female Domination" and "Consensual Sadomasochism".
While parents don't usually condone snooping, if they think they have a duty to tell the other kid's parents, they will, and it will blow up in your face.
PS I didn't think you were american, mantrid?
Also say you ordered How to Hack Half-Life 2 instead of those 2 titles. Damn you FedEx and mixed up orders. Read the books and return them to save $75.
So you are a computer hacker?
And, yes, I'm an American.
As for the friend thing, that would be a problem, because I don't really have any friends that would work. And I couldn't just tell my parents that they don't know them, because then they'd pry even more. And my parents would want to know why it was something the friend couldn't recieve, and probably make me open it. And then they'd call that person's parents, and make life hell, and so on.
So maybe I'll just bite the bullet. The worst they can do is take the books away and sever my internet connection... actually, thats pretty bad. But I hope they'll be understanding. I mean, they flat out told me its okay if I'm <span style='color:sky'>g</span>ay (which I'm not, techniclly), and that its alright if I have sex before marriage, so I'm hoping this won't affect them too much. What I do worry about is misconceptions they may have about BDSM, and so would be unfairly biased.
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No... what gave you that idea?
Edit II: Hell, it may not be a big deal at all. When I got back with hanging out with a bunch of girls, my mother asked me, "So, if you're hanging out with all these girls, why aren't you getting any action?" I think she was only half-joking...
Someone wants some grandkids...
I'm not in your position, but if they said all that other stuff was okay, it's probably best to tell them now.
Either way, you got owned. Owned in the face.
2. My mom IS home all day.
3. Its a one story house.
4. I've never played Splinter-Cell.
So, hopefully she'll understand. Actually, I have no idea how she'd react.
Orrrrr you can just go. You've seen every peice of mail I have gotten, im sure there isnt anthrax in this letter either.
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Oh Boy-o, you have to find a way out:
Think. She is a "concerned parent". She is checking what you order SO THAT YOU DON'T ORDER SOMETHING SORTA LIKE WHAT YOU ORDERED.
Stay home sick? Again, do you have a sibling who could help you? Could you just arrive home and take it to your room, or will she open it before you get home?
keep it clean, keep it civil, or you WILL find yourself in search of another set of forums to troll.
as for the package itself, open it with your mother there, not your father. it is my personal experiance that females want to know why you are interested, and accept it. men, just think it's wrong, and take it away from you (my father at least, i'm down 4 playboy's and a toy i was holding for a friend)
your interestes are unique, and the books should help you approach them safely, inform your mother that you wish to be safe about your sexual interests, as to not endanger yourself in finding what makes you happy.
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Mantrid is female? when did i miss that memo?
Re: quote. That actually depends on the culture you come from.
I would probably ask them to trust you on it, that there is simply a personal aspect of your life that you wanted to research, and that you would much rather do so in private, and perhaps that you will be able to discuss it with them later when you're more informed on the matter.
Also: Given what you've said about your mother, it sounds like she wouldn't have a problem with this, particularly if it's just curiousity/research (it would also depend what those books are like - if they're strictly educational research text, I imagine she would take a better reaction to it than she would to, say, a photo-book like The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotica.
Or, say, Sex Tips from a Dominatrix.
Speaking of which, I suggest Venus in Furs. It's a fictional novel by Leopold Von Sacher-Masoch, for whom masochism is named.
marce: Caring about your kids ("being concerned") and worrying about the kind of media they're exposed to isn't necessarily an approach with that mindset. I for one would have no problem with my children (if I had any) ordering books for research or curiousity (even on taboo topics), so long as I was there to monitor the situation properly.
If I were you I'd have a chat with her and ask her if she really wants to fall into a fully unsuccessful stereotype of parenting. Sure being a parent doesn't come with any manuals but there's some very silly ideals of how things should be done and "concerned parent" is one of them.
My parents wouldn't subject me to that but if they did I'd merely end up pointing out that they obviously have no trust for me if they have to monitor what I order and that trust is the foundation of any successful relationship =P
I mean seriously...
If you bought them for research purposes, tell them that. If you bought them because you want to experiment with things in the book, tell them. If they disapprove, sit down and discuss it with them.
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she has stopped snooping through my ****.