Drawing an unsolicited portrait of a girl you aren't dating.

moultanomoultano Creator of ns_shiva. Join Date: 2002-12-14 Member: 10806Members, NS1 Playtester, Contributor, Constellation, NS2 Playtester, Squad Five Blue, Reinforced - Shadow, WC 2013 - Gold, NS2 Community Developer, Pistachionauts
<div class="IPBDescription">Creepy?</div>Question for ya'll.

Is drawing an unsolicited portrait of a girl you aren't dating creepy? As the quality of the drawing gets better, is it more or less creepy?
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  • PerfectionsFlawPerfectionsFlaw Join Date: 2003-02-14 Member: 13555Members
    Do you have several pictures of this girl or are you just working on the one portrait?
  • MedHeadMedHead Join Date: 2002-12-19 Member: 11115Members, Constellation
    Does she need to know you're drawing a picture of her?
  • QuaunautQuaunaut The longest seven days in history... Join Date: 2003-03-21 Member: 14759Members, Constellation, Reinforced - Shadow
    If I had no wang(which most on these forums assume), I'd say no. But you need to know her well- if you don't, I'd say yeah, real fast.
  • UltimaGeckoUltimaGecko hates endnotes Join Date: 2003-05-14 Member: 16320Members
    I think it partially depends on context. If there's any sort of compromising positions going on in those drawings I'd go with a 'no'. If you know the person decently well, or they know you're a good drawer or something, it could be construed as a compliment. It's also less awkward if they're not dating anyone, as well.

    If you want to cover that one up, just draw some other people and say you're going for drawing random people.


    ...I've had the urge to draw some people, but I find they generally don't sit still long enough...plus I'm bad at drawing animate objects usually.
  • PerfectionsFlawPerfectionsFlaw Join Date: 2003-02-14 Member: 13555Members
    Okay, artists do this all the time. They seem someone who just looks, well drawable. It's not weird to draw someone. Hell, it wouldn't even be weird if she showed up at the same time at the same place and you continued to draw her. I know a guy who once sat across from a sleeping bum in a park and drew him. It's the study of life really. Anyway, if you fancy her and ask her out be sure to hide the drawings in the bat cave eh? Or outright tell her. My advice is keep on drawing, if you're intrested in her then allow her to accidentlly see the portrait. Like, let it dangle from your notebook and fall by her feet, continue to walk on until she picks it up and hollars. I'd like to see how that turned out ^.^
  • RuByRuBy Join Date: 2002-12-12 Member: 10732Members
    No matter how familiar you are with this person, if you're drawing in an objective manner, just for practice, then I would say no. I think a better drawing does make it seem less creepy, and drawing the other people around her can help as well. Don't try to hide it either.

    I've had this problem before. As an artist, if I see an interesting subject for a drawing or photograph, I don't feel restrained because it's part of the trade.
  • moultanomoultano Creator of ns_shiva. Join Date: 2002-12-14 Member: 10806Members, NS1 Playtester, Contributor, Constellation, NS2 Playtester, Squad Five Blue, Reinforced - Shadow, WC 2013 - Gold, NS2 Community Developer, Pistachionauts
    Actually I'm drawing her because I'm completely head over heels for her, and need an outlet for all of that energy. We've been seeing eachother off and on for the last 8 months, and she's been feeling pretty crazy about it too, but she doesn't feel comfortable dating me because I'm American. (She's Indian.)

    That's the short version anyways. Eventually I need to start getting over this girl, but in the meantime, I might as well get some good art out of it.

    Here's the drawing. 11'x14' HB, 2B, and 4B. About 4-5 hours of work.
    <a href="http://picasaweb.google.com/ryanmoulton/Portfolio/photo#5127415769178031506" target="_blank"><img src="http://lh5.google.com/ryanmoulton/Ryg9edGXxZI/AAAAAAAAE_o/yfe-6lkVfSA/s800/IMG_1590.JPG" border="0" class="linked-image" /></a>
  • Private_ColemanPrivate_Coleman PhD in Video Games Join Date: 2002-11-07 Member: 7510Members
    If I was a girl and someone drew a picture of that quality of me I would think it was pretty ######ing cool.
  • NeonSpyderNeonSpyder &quot;Das est NTLDR?&quot; Join Date: 2003-07-03 Member: 17913Members
    Yeah that's pretty ace, so it's all good.
  • Private_ColemanPrivate_Coleman PhD in Video Games Join Date: 2002-11-07 Member: 7510Members
    I think it is sort of like this

    <img src="http://img251.imageshack.us/img251/3582/creepgraphyu5.jpg" border="0" class="linked-image" />


    also creepiness increases with amount of drawings.
  • NeonSpyderNeonSpyder &quot;Das est NTLDR?&quot; Join Date: 2003-07-03 Member: 17913Members
    How is an extremely-high quality drawing go into the creepy zone again?
  • ZahlZahl Join Date: 2003-02-21 Member: 13802Members, Constellation
    <!--quoteo(post=1658623:date=Oct 31 2007, 05:35 AM:name=NeonSpyder)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(NeonSpyder @ Oct 31 2007, 05:35 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658623"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->How is an extremely-high quality drawing go into the creepy zone again?<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->(

    Because a drawing that looks like it took you about 20 months of work to complete (all the little extreme details, like even drawing every single freckle she has on exact the correct spot) looks very obsessive <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tounge.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":p" border="0" alt="tounge.gif" />
  • Private_ColemanPrivate_Coleman PhD in Video Games Join Date: 2002-11-07 Member: 7510Members
    <!--quoteo(post=1658626:date=Oct 31 2007, 06:13 AM:name=Zahl)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Zahl @ Oct 31 2007, 06:13 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658626"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->(

    Because a drawing that looks like it took you about 20 months of work to complete (all the little extreme details, like even drawing every single freckle she has on exact the correct spot) looks very obsessive <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tounge.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":p" border="0" alt="tounge.gif" /><!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->

    Correct.

    This new revised graph takes into consideration the uncanny valley

    <img src="http://img100.imageshack.us/img100/7647/creepgraph2aj1.jpg" border="0" class="linked-image" />
  • TyrainTyrain Join Date: 2003-01-03 Member: 11746Members
    <!--quoteo(post=1658629:date=Oct 31 2007, 01:30 PM:name=Private_Coleman)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Private_Coleman @ Oct 31 2007, 01:30 PM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658629"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->Correct.

    This new revised graph takes into consideration the uncanny valley

    <img src="http://img100.imageshack.us/img100/7647/creepgraph2aj1.jpg" border="0" class="linked-image" /><!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->

    A photo would be much better in quality and the creepiness only depends on how you take the picture.

    Out on a date, having fun? Ok.
    Hiding in the bushes? Not Ok.
    Drinking while someone has a cam and taking pics? Ok.
    Kidnapping and putting her in a locked room. Not Ok.


    You see where I'm going with this.
  • CrispyCrispy Jaded GD Join Date: 2004-08-22 Member: 30793Members, Constellation
    edited October 2007
    <!--quoteo(post=1658630:date=Oct 31 2007, 11:39 AM:name=Tyrain)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Tyrain @ Oct 31 2007, 11:39 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658630"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->A photo would be much better in quality and the creepiness only depends on how you take the picture.

    Out on a date, having fun? Ok.
    Hiding in the bushes? Not Ok.
    Drinking while someone has a cam and taking pics? Ok.
    Kidnapping and putting her in a locked room. Not Ok.
    You see where I'm going with this.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->What about drawing a perfect picture of her, stapling it to the face of a lifesize doll made out of potato sacks in beanbag fashion and then putting that in a locked room? Is that OK? <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/nerd-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid="::nerdy::" border="0" alt="nerd-fix.gif" />

    ---

    On a serious note, she'll probably like it, and she might cast of the shackles of her racial oppression and go on a libertarian crusade for you if she sees it.

    Okay, I lapsed into non-seriousness again there.

    Is she the one in blue in the Salsa Performance Dinner album?
  • TyrainTyrain Join Date: 2003-01-03 Member: 11746Members
    <!--quoteo(post=1658631:date=Oct 31 2007, 01:54 PM:name=Crispy)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Crispy @ Oct 31 2007, 01:54 PM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658631"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->What about drawing a perfect picture of her, stapling it to the face of a lifesize doll made out of potato sacks in beanbag fashion and then putting that in a locked room? Is that OK? <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/nerd-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid="::nerdy::" border="0" alt="nerd-fix.gif" /><!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->

    Did the potato beanbag consent to it? <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tounge.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":p" border="0" alt="tounge.gif" />
  • PerfectionsFlawPerfectionsFlaw Join Date: 2003-02-14 Member: 13555Members
    As long as he doesn't go to Pier 1 Imports and buy a bunch of candles and flowers, setting them up in a shrine like fashion with the picture on the wall and a lock of her hair on on a pedastol. Very nice drawing btw, it's super-realistic.
  • NeonSpyderNeonSpyder &quot;Das est NTLDR?&quot; Join Date: 2003-07-03 Member: 17913Members
    <!--quoteo(post=1658633:date=Oct 31 2007, 06:59 AM:name=PerfectionsFlaw)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(PerfectionsFlaw @ Oct 31 2007, 06:59 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658633"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->As long as he doesn't go to Pier 1 Imports and buy a bunch of candles and flowers, setting them up in a shrine like fashion with the picture on the wall and a lock of her hair on on a pedastol. Very nice drawing btw, it's super-realistic.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->

    Would it be ok if he went to walmart to pick up the candles? Does that make a difference?
  • DiscoZombieDiscoZombie Join Date: 2003-08-05 Member: 18951Members
    <!--quoteo(post=1658644:date=Oct 31 2007, 09:22 AM:name=NeonSpyder)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(NeonSpyder @ Oct 31 2007, 09:22 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658644"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->Would it be ok if he went to walmart to pick up the candles? Does that make a difference?<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
    I think we need a new version of the creepiness graph to take into account where the creepy shrine candles were bought.

    really good drawing =p so she knows how crazy you are about her? and she kinda feels the same way but refuses to get too serious due to culture? that quite sucks. you probably are better off trying to get over her. I don't understand people who cling to culture. I personally have no culture. Completely uncultured. She lives in America doesn't she? This country is a melting pot. she should suck it up and melt in.
  • CabooseCaboose title = name(self, handle) Join Date: 2003-02-15 Member: 13597Members, Constellation
    I was actually thinking of doing something simmilar for a girl that I really like.
  • TychoCelchuuuTychoCelchuuu Anememone Join Date: 2002-03-23 Member: 345Members
    I think the movie with the perfect answer to the question at hand is <i>Napoleon Dynamite</i>.
  • DiscoZombieDiscoZombie Join Date: 2003-08-05 Member: 18951Members
    edited October 2007
    <!--quoteo(post=1658656:date=Oct 31 2007, 10:47 AM:name=TychoCelchuuu)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(TychoCelchuuu @ Oct 31 2007, 10:47 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658656"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->I think the movie with the perfect answer to the question at hand is <i>Napoleon Dynamite</i>.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
    that picture was hott

    edit:
    <img src="http://pds5.egloos.com/pds/200704/15/25/c0042125_0104375.jpg" border="0" class="linked-image" />
  • ThaldarinThaldarin Alonzi&#33; Join Date: 2003-07-15 Member: 18173Members, Constellation
    Unless you're an art major, it's pretty darn creepy.
  • ZigZig ...I am Captain Planet&#33; Join Date: 2002-10-23 Member: 1576Members
    edited October 2007
    <!--quoteo(post=1658664:date=Oct 31 2007, 08:34 AM:name=Thaldarin)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Thaldarin @ Oct 31 2007, 08:34 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658664"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->Unless you're an art major, it's pretty darn creepy.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->

    You may not have noticed, but the picture he drew is pretty f*ing boss.

    Yeah dude, I would say that you definitely fall somewhere in the "good drawing, not creepy." And you didn't mention until you posted the picture that you guys have been seeing each other for 8 months. Doesn't that constitute dating? Or did you mean that you guys have been making eye contact for 8 months? Either way... I can't imagine her not liking the picture, unless it doesn't look like her.

    BTW tell her to stop being racist and just get with you.
  • DrfuzzyDrfuzzy FEW... MORE.... INCHES... Join Date: 2003-09-21 Member: 21094Members
    Make her wonder who her mystery drawer is, post it somewhere she frequents so she can see it <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":D" border="0" alt="biggrin-fix.gif" />
  • EpidemicEpidemic Dark Force Gorge Join Date: 2003-06-29 Member: 17781Members
    edited October 2007
    Why do you have to get over her, when she's pretty crazy about you too? You said she didnt like you were an american, but surely that's a small barrier, considering she's crazy about you?
  • ThaldarinThaldarin Alonzi&#33; Join Date: 2003-07-15 Member: 18173Members, Constellation
    <!--quoteo(post=1658669:date=Oct 31 2007, 03:48 PM:name=Drfuzzy)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Drfuzzy @ Oct 31 2007, 03:48 PM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658669"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->Make her wonder who her mystery drawer is, post it somewhere she frequents so she can see it <img src="style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin-fix.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":D" border="0" alt="biggrin-fix.gif" /><!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->

    Okay you just walked beyond the boundary of creepy in to stalker..
  • AbraAbra Would you kindly Join Date: 2003-08-17 Member: 19870Members
    edited October 2007
    That is ice.

    I was in the ethnic barrier thing. I dealt with it by eating out with her and her parents. They were satisfied with me, and all was good for the time it lasted.
    Be nice and act natural towards her parents, they will see that you are great.
  • LikuLiku I, am the Somberlain. Join Date: 2003-01-10 Member: 12128Members
    She's the only creepy thing, those eyes are huge...
  • moultanomoultano Creator of ns_shiva. Join Date: 2002-12-14 Member: 10806Members, NS1 Playtester, Contributor, Constellation, NS2 Playtester, Squad Five Blue, Reinforced - Shadow, WC 2013 - Gold, NS2 Community Developer, Pistachionauts
    <!--quoteo(post=1658631:date=Oct 31 2007, 07:54 AM:name=Crispy)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Crispy @ Oct 31 2007, 07:54 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658631"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->Is she the one in blue in the Salsa Performance Dinner album?<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
    Yep. That's her.

    <!--quoteo(post=1658650:date=Oct 31 2007, 10:11 AM:name=DiscoZombie)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(DiscoZombie @ Oct 31 2007, 10:11 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658650"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->really good drawing =p so she knows how crazy you are about her? and she kinda feels the same way but refuses to get too serious due to culture? that quite sucks. you probably are better off trying to get over her. I don't understand people who cling to culture. I personally have no culture. Completely uncultured. She lives in America doesn't she? This country is a melting pot. she should suck it up and melt in.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
    Hear hear!

    <!--quoteo(post=1658676:date=Oct 31 2007, 12:27 PM:name=Abra)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Abra @ Oct 31 2007, 12:27 PM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&pid=1658676"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->That is ice.

    I was in the ethnic barrier thing. I dealt with it by eating out with her and her parents. They were satisfied with me, and all was good for the time it lasted.
    Be nice and act natural towards her parents, they will see that you are great.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd-->
    Unfortunately her parents are in Jaipur, India. However, I may be going to a friend's wedding in Delhi in February, so if things are still the way they are I may have to take a train up there and meet them.

    Thanks for the kind words everybody.
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